I wish I was talking about the fun and flirty casual touching between lovers! As odd as it seems, unwanted touching can be a very real part of having a disability and venturing out into the world.
Maybe I’m shy, or maybe my Mother raised me differently, but I’ve never been encouraged (or wanted) to ask to touch a stranger. I mean, what a strange thing to do! Weirdly, I’ve been asked by many mothers if their child could touch my prosthesis. And I’m sure this can be applied to wheelchairs, braces, crutches, walkers or any other assistive devices.
On a recent trip to visit my family and friends in Colorado, I went out to dinner with a large group of people that I’m close with. During dinner, my very adventurous friend, decided that a fellow diner’s hair was just so interesting to him, that he needed to touch it. To most of us, we were shocked when he announced that he would go touch this young lady’s hair. Once again, WEIRD!
Needless to say, she did not want her hair touched. She let him know that he was a stranger and that it was a very odd request that she did not feel comfortable with. Hell yeah! You tell him! I wanted to walk over and give her a high-five!
In my very humble opinion, asking to touch someone’s hair is one and the same as asking to touch their prosthetic leg. It shouldn’t be acceptable behavior people!
So the moral of this story is to keep your hands, feet, wheels and cane tips to yourself. Leave the PDA to the lovers and not the strangers.